February 6th, 2012
by Jodi · Filed Under: Ponderings
I need to interrupt the current series on The Pill. Normally, when I get on a topic I am like a dog with a bone and I want to finish it but this has cropped up so much in the last week, it is worthy of a post.
We need to chat about…food. Not just the edibleness of food, but what food represents and how personal it is in our lives. If you really want to know the power of food, take a mixed crowd of women of all ages and bring out two trays. On one tray is a healthy appetizer that is very good for you but maybe a 7 on the scale of 1 to 10 in flavor. On the other tray is a not-so-good-for-you appetizer but is an 11 on the scale of 1 to 10 in flavor. The event is a high visibility event, there are at least 50 women in the room and everybody there knows at least 2 people.
Some background for you:
The room is full of different sizes of women but not inclusive of all sizes.
Also, all types of women (athletic, moms, single, married, childless—you name it) are represented.
There is no music or anything that serves as a distraction.
The average age in the room is 36 with the age span going from 28 to 46.
There’s at least a few races represented in the room.
It’s an event for an organization-type-thing which means that there’s politics and there’s a pecking order.
The appetizers are the only food served at this event.
The trays were being brought around but everyone knew what the choices were without having to see the trays.
This is fully fictitious but I want to make it as real to you as possible.
Here are some observations for you:
- There was a ton of chatter in the room before the trays came out.
- About 30% of the women were not talking with anyone, though.
- There was noticeably less chatter in the room once the trays came out. It wasn’t silence, but it was a loud hush.
- Three women hopped on the yummy appetizer right away and were very loud and funny about it. Jokes were flying as they were eating. They made at least 2 self conscious remarks but kept on eating. They looked around the whole time without looking like they were looking around and 1 of them went back for a second one.
- An even bigger group of women, say about 8 or so, attacked the healthy appetizer. They said nothing about it. They kept talking about whatever had their attention in the first place but never mentioned the food once.
- The majority of the women abstained from either choice…until…the “captivating women” chose what they wanted. Then the other women in the room slowly made choices to eat.
- As soon as the trays came out, at least 70% of the room began to fidget with their clothing. Pulling down skirts, flattening out their shirts on the bellies, buttoning jackets—if you could adjust it, then it was adjusted.
- At least half of the room suddenly learned how to scope a whole room out without moving their heads. Their eyes developed some kind of Xray/360 degree vision where they could see through the back of their head to see who was eating what and how much. It was eerie. Felt like a bad M. Night Shyamalan movie.
- Those that ate more than one appetizer all had a remark. Either about what they were wearing, how they were on a diet, how they hadn’t eaten all day. Basically, qualifiers.
- Some stared at some women in pure, noticeable disdain for either their choice of appetizer or for the quantity they ate.
- A few women went around offering their friends an appetizer—the yummy one—while they themselves chose the healthy one afterwards.
- Those that were alone chose the yummy appetizer 2 to 1 to those who were engaged in conversation.
- By the end of the serving of the food, 80% of the room had one of each appetizer although it was varied as to who had which one first. Thirteen percent had only the healthy appetizer with the other 7% having just the yummy appetizer. No one could abstain from eating all night long.
- Over the course of the evening, at least 2 separate groups broke off and headed to the bathroom to talk about who chose what and why!!
On Friday I will finish this in my audio post. I will tell you where I am going with this and why. But just know: food IS… Do you recognize yourself in there anywhere or someone close to you? I’d love to know below. Back to the series tomorrow. Woop woop!