I love new beginnings and not because I am a poor finisher of things, although I am sure that has some kind of bearing because it typically means whatever it is that I am starting requires a new notebook or journal and possibly a new set of pens. You have no idea how deep this love goes of journals and pens but I am sure you are getting a sense. Regardless, new starts represent a new chance to finish well and when it comes to dieting for 12 weeks, that is something we want to do.
To ensure we finish well, I will split this into 2 separate cities pieces where the mechanics such as “the guidelines” and the things to think about are on top and the emotional piece that plagues us throughout the diet is on the bottom. The former will have very little dialogue during this series. I will be doing something like this again and when I do, I may say then why I do what I do and why this works so well (because it does work so well). The latter is all about me yapping away so get ready for me to dig up in our egos and not-so-good thoughts while dieting.
GUIDELINES FOR WEEKS 12 TO 9:
- Open up your diet so that your choices are pretty much ANY food that is whole and natural. ANYTHING.
- Tightly monitor caloric intake by measuring and weighing everything. This is for the first 3 weeks only. Even veteran dieters!
- Cals are on point if there is hunger at bed time. Not starvation. Hunger. You cannot measure this accurately until the second week.
- Shut down all nibbles. Create a menu first. Not a food diary…a menu. If it’s not on the menu, don’t eat it.
- Make sure you have Starch in your diet at this point. STarchless too soon KILLS your results.
- No cheat meal until end of second week.
- Expectations are out of whack. We covered this last series.
- Pollyanna view of either ‘this super fun thing to do b/c we have a cooler and Lulu’s that match it’ or ‘it’s unbelievably dreadful and why-can’t-you-understand-what-I’m-going-through, for-Heaven’s-sake-I’m-dieting.’ Yeah…we’re avoiding both of those mindsets.
- We start where we left off. WRONG!! Everything needs to be new. Do not “re-package” what you ate last week and call it a diet this week.
“Being a sex symbol was rather like being a convict.” Raquel Welch
Adoration is a double edged sword that is sharp in both directions of cut. When dieting, it comes in the form of endless attention and questions about what we are doing and how we are doing it.
“How did you get your arms that way?”
“How many days a week do you workout?”
“So tell me what you eat on this so-called diet.”
The onslaught doesn’t start right away but about 6 to 7 weeks into your program you can tell you are doing more than just a regular diet. I think when this occurs we all have mixed feelings about it. On the one hand, it feels good to garner so much attention. We may not be able to see the changes, but someone does and it motivates us to keep on suffering through the chicken, turkey and tuna. Furthermore, they see the changes enough to react so strongly and we think ‘wow’. Suddenly we have a pep in our step and the world is an ok place to be. Our confidence is boosted, our mortgage is paid, we just found $10 in a coat from the winter—heck…life is good.
On the other hand, it is toxic. First of all, it is more intense and powerful in nature from those that are amazed than if you were just “regular dieting”. You are not just getting smaller, you are getting ripped. Your body is changing in ways you didn’t even know it could change. Muscles in the shoulder, veins in the forearms and little lines in the belly are all signs that your work is paying off and to them, this is just as new as it is for you so they want in. As far as they’re concerned, you’re holding out. You have some secret they need to know about and regardless of whether you are busy or not, it has now become your responsibility to ‘fess up. I have been at barbecues, weddings and other social events that I attended to enjoy myself and mingle and have been pinned in a corner by someone who wanted to know everything about what I was doing to look that way. Intrusive is not a strong enough word. Obnoxious rolls on the tongue a little…
Second, you don’t just receive their compliments and overt adulation as the outside of you looking good. You receive them as if the inside of you is looking good, too. You are being validated. Whatever quirk you may not like about yourself has just flown out the window because you don’t just look good; you. look. good. Depression, sadness, loneliness, rejection, financial worries, jacked up relationships, family tension, boredom and a going nowhere job have just been eradicated in one weekend of over-the-top compliments. None of that matters right now. All that matters is that they keep noticing because you are on a high right now—a very dangerous one, but a high nonetheless.
Your workouts are stronger and your dieting seems easier. Turning down the treats is not very hard because of your iron clad will that suddenly showed up via UPS. At the beginning you couldn’t even walk by a Panera bread without licking the window, now you’re baking treats for your kid’s school party because you have that much confidence in yourself and your abilities to shut down the cravings. And it is at this time that we make the mistake of believing that we are doing this. That we are in control and have somehow mastered the carb demon that seems to live in so many of us women. It is here we move from confident to cocky even if we don’t show it. We may never show it but we make this conclusion in our mind that we have arrived. That we’re special. Disciplined. Admired. Strong. And because of those things, somehow…better.
I look forward to hearing how this series is for you. If you have any questions about the diet portion, hit me up below. And you know I’d love to know if you ever experienced any of the adoration portion, as well. Til we meet again. Woop woop!!