June 20th, 2012
by Jodi · Filed Under: Ponderings
My, my the months are flying by. It seems like eons ago when you cleaned up your diet and really put your mind to getting in shape for the summer. All those hours in the gym and kitchen have done your body some good in that you look great—probably the best you have in a long time—but you feel like crap and your absolutely petrified about stopping what you’re doing because you do not want to go backwards again. This is the second time on the weight loss roller coaster and not only is it getting harder, but it’s truly getting old. Peace seems to be fleeting and there has to be someone who can honestly make this happen on a daily basis. You’re starting to think that you’ll never achieve maintenance, that it’s all a big lie and somehow you’ll be a prisoner forever of this body you once wanted.
I am so tired of the gym. It’s gorgeous outside. I want to try the new bootcamp class at my gym, I heard it’s hard, but I can’t do that, lift and do my cardio. I’m not giving up my lift, I don’t know if it’s “cardio” enough to replace my cardio. I also want to try the outdoor standing pilates class. Ugh!
Burning out makes you:
Irrational. Many of us think what got us here was whatever the last thing we were doing. We cannot for the life of us see the sum total of all that we do and because of that, we are held hostage by the thought that “I did A + B and got C” and if I don’t do it in that order and in that particular way, I’ll lose all my hard work. If you stay at this pace and mindset, though, you’ll implode.
Working out makes you:
Confident. You realize that it wasn’t one specific thing that you have done to get here and it won’t be one specific thing that keeps you here either. You’ll keep a close watch on how your clothes are fitting, but this is summer and you need a break from the indoors.
You begin to write out your current schedule so you can see where you can cut corners but you’re not getting anywhere. On the one hand, you need a break. Being inside, lifting weights, the boring cardio all bother you and you know that you can change it up a little but you’re not sure how much. On the other hand, changing it right now sends your mind into a tail spin: What do I keep in? What do I get rid of? What matters? The more you read, the less you know and the more adamant you become that you are not doing this all over again.
Burning out makes you:
Aggravated and confused. Because you are operating out of fear, you are not making sound decisions which in turn make you feel trapped and resentful. Ultimately, you realize that you are not going to blow up overnight but you can’t seem to shake that nagging feeling that you are making a big mistake. This sends you on an internet/FB frenzy of seeing what other people are doing for the summer. However, this only makes you more manic and you’re about to ‘not work out altogether’ out of pure stress. Yes, not smart and worse than if you just went to boot camp but emotions are incredibly powerful as you are now finding out and they don’t always help us in our time of need.
Working out makes you:
Satisfied and lucid. After writing out your schedule you decide to keep 2 days/week as a lift, 3 days of boot camp and cardio on an ‘as needed’ basis. You’ll try out the pilates first to see if it’s challenging and if it is, you may try to fit it in. But you already know that you’ll be going away a lot on the weekends so you’ll be making lots of adjustments all summer long. This will not be the only time you do this, this summer.
One of the biggest mistakes that we make in fitness is basing what we do off of what someone else is doing rather than basing it off of what we need. Instead of learning what our bodies really respond to and what truly makes us tick, we blindly follow behind those we admire and stalk on the internet, not realizing that 50% of what they post is fiction and the other 50% they are not telling you because it’s a “secret”. There are reasons you do not trust letting go of the reigns and they’re more than just worrying about the outcome:
- Not understanding what “worked” in the first place
- Putting too much value on your appearance
- Wanting to follow random people’s programs because it’s easier and heck, they look great so why not
- Wanting, needing and relying on structure but then resenting the restriction of the rigid structure
If you allow these things to continue to control you, you will struggle FOREVER every time summer, the holidays and wedding season comes around and you WILL burnout. I know I said it before but it bears repeating because I’m not stirring this up without follow thru: I promise I will give you some firm guidelines at the end of this series. In the mean time, though, learn your body! I can guarantee you that it requires much less upkeep than you think and that most of you are just continuously beating it into submission until it no longer wants to listen to you. And that’s not good. Woop woop!